Live, Learn, Let go and Love

All of us have an ego wounded self who is narcissistic to one degree or another. I am defining narcissism as abandoning responsibility for ourselves and expecting someone else to attend to us and define our self-worth, or expecting something external to fill us up and make us feel loved. Given this definition, ‘healthy narcissism’ is an oxymoron. We are ‘healthy’ when we take 100% responsibility for compassionately learning from all our feelings and taking loving action in our own behalf. When we behave in a healthy way toward ourselves and others, we are operating from our loving adult self. When we abandon ourselves by ignoring our feelings, judging ourselves, turning to various addictions to avoid our feelings, and making others responsible for our feelings, we are operating from our wounded self♥

~ Margaret Paul, Ph.D.